Monday, 21 September 2009

Over to You ...

Whilst belting out tunes with her amazing voice to Bristol Festival partygoers during the early hours of Sunday morning, a friend of mine fell off stage and broke her ankle.  That's pretty shit right?

She broke it in 4 places!  OUCH! She'll be out of action for 3 months! DOUBLE OUCH!

This means that she can't do any more gigs for a while.  It also means that she'll find it extremely difficult to entertain her lively two year old son, which many of us know can be trying at the very best of times.

So, I'm asking you all for ideas - how can she keep herself and her gorgeous little fella occupied with restricted mobility and (because she can't work right now), I'm guessing, restricted finances?

All suggestions welcome.  Thank you :-)



  1. Is he into crafts? If she can get someone to make the market run for supplies to last she could do paperplates faces, paperbag puppets, noodle art, pumpkin painting, make Halloween decorations..... Books on CD, carpet picnics, paper airplane "wars" (if he'll retrieve them), of course there's always TV! ;) Poor thing!

  2. Trying again!
    I suffer (shittily) from bi-polar, so have times of sometimes severe depression. Each time I learn a little bit more about what I need to help me (and family) through, and each time I learn that pals want to help me, but are often afraid to ask.
    So, what I would ask for is:
    One particular pal to act as co-ordinator and organise
    1. Rota of Mums to take Wee1 off on 1/2 day playdates, encompassing one meal.
    2. Rota of spare toys/books/puzzles/DVDs to be lent by the small box changing weekly. Novelty is a wonderful thing.
    3. Planned (NOT impromptu) visits by friends bringing wine/teabags/cake/biccies for grown-up conversation.
    Whilst your friend will be worried about her child, you should be particularly attuned to her mental well-being. Being at home 24/7 with Wees is hard enough - being immobile is just in a whole new universe.
    There: now I should print this out and give it to my friends. But I won't ;-)

  3. I agree with Dotty.... well said x

  4. Some fab ideas, thank you. And a good point about looking after her and not just her little darling - at least when you're mobile you can 'get away' for a couple of hours.

    Dotty, DO print it out and give it to your friends - maybe we all should do the same xxx

  5. I'm currently suffering from decreased mobility myself, and hate not being able to do as much with Rosemary as I would normally. I have to admit that I do resort to the TV too much. But there are some other things that we can do and enjoy...

    Reading books
    Playing with playdough
    Playing 'hide stuff' (adult closes eyes while child hides something under a box/bowl/blanket/toy baby bath; adult then tries to guess what it is, asking for clues if child is up to giving them)
    Playing doctors and dentists with cuddly toys
    Playing cards or dominoes
    Watching while child plays with small world play toys, cuddly toys, cars, animals, etc. etc. commenting, questioning now and again if necessary

    Obviously, some of the above might not be appropriate if he is a very young two.

    We have Rosemary's small table pushed up next to the sofa (or next to the gym ball, if I'm sitting on that), so she can put things on there to play/do with me.

    Agree with Dotty about getting people to take the boy out to the park and things like that. Fortunately, I have Chris to do that, and Rosemary also goes off to playgroup and nursery school every day, so there's not too much time needing filling.

    And, again, agree with Dotty about getting people to visit the mum, too. I feel horribly isolated at the moment and was incredibly pleased to have a visit from a friend and her small child yesterday. Someone different to chat to is really important when you're mostly housebound.